Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Please don't quit

After yesterday's post, it's only fitting that Other Associate came into my office today to give me a huge pep-talk, the gist of which was, "please don't quit."

He told me I'm doing a great job and that, in the short time I've been working here, I've already picked up a lot and he can tell that I make a concerted effort to improve everything he points out that I need to work on.  He reassured me that he really likes me and that our dick boss also likes me.  Finally, and not unexpectedly, he told me that he's sick of people leaving after two months because it's hard on our dick boss, and particularly hard on him because he has to pick up the slack.  So, he would really appreciate it if I stick around.

Anyway, just thought I'd share the fact that there's at least one person in my firm who doesn't think I'm a complete fuck-up.  It was nice to hear.

Oh, if you're wondering why I've actually had time to post so much over the past couple of days, it's because my elbow is hurt and I haven't been able to work out.  Not working out clears up quite a bit of time for me, but I'm starting to get a little cranky for lack of exercise.


  1. You should be really proud of yourself. Having to adjust to a new job is one of the most stressful periods in one's life, especially a job with a steep learning curve.

  2. I don't understand this... so DB (Dick Boss) yells. So what? This only matters if DB yelling means your ass is on the chopping block. It's rational to be upset about being yelled at if you think your firing will shortly follow. If DB just yells, but he's not throwing things at you or ignoring you or whatever the [passive-]aggressive behavior is that signals your termination, then just suck it up. Work. Learn. Take home a pay check, and if the environment sucks, learn something that will allow you to move on to a more favorable environment. But where in the stars was it written that you deserve a hug at the end of each day? As a member of this recent law graduate generation, it rankles me when old timers mutter about the "entitled recent graduates who expect constant praise." Color me blushed when I read an account like yours, essentially whining because the boss isn't "nice." And before you dismiss this post, realize that I have been an avid reader of yours for nearly a year. I like your story telling style and have been pulling for you to succeed. What a shame that, one given the opportunity, you seem to embody the stereotypical hopeless young person that is mucking up expectations for the rest of us.

  3. A few notes:
    1) It's not the yelling that annoys me. It's the unreasonableness of it along with the condescending tone most of it takes. You can yell at me all you want and, if I've done something to warrant it, it doesn't bother me at all. Just don't yell at me for something I had no way of knowing and then talk down to me. That's just being an ass.
    2) I think I'm doing a pretty good job of sucking it up. It's not like I'm sitting around at work asking people to hold my hand while I cry on their shoulder. I'm complaining about my boss on my blog. I'm pretty sure that's fitting with the overall tone of my blog.
    3) How does this comment follow from this post? I just got done talking about something good that happened. How does that prompt a comment about embodying a bad stereotype? Color me confused.
    4) Happy holidays!